Chilvary Isn't Dead, You're Just Not Demanding It

These days a lot of females are complaining that chivalry is dead, (myself included). In all actuality its still alive and well, its just that we no longer demand it. 

The real problem here is that women, for one reason or another, have become complacent and have allowed men to get away with doing the bare minimum. I once fell into that slump when I entertained a guy whose idea of a date was me going over his place to "chill". Now don't get me wrong, going over one another's house isn't a bad thing completely. The problem is that the whole "chilling" thing becomes common place and it shouldn't be all that you guys are doing and it certainly shouldn't be a first date, which of course is a HUGE red flag! But let’s get back on track… the I was dealing with also failed to compliment me, hold constructive conversations, ask me about my well being ,I mean the the list goes on and on. He had established this sort of nonchalant comfortability with me that left me feeling...well.  uncomfortable.

"Milk for Free." 

My problem with 'chilling” is that I didn't set the tone for what I expected him to do early on. By me allowing him to chill with me in the house ALL OF THE TIME, he assumed that he didn't have to really do anything else to impress me or gain my affection. This then snowballed into him not doing anything AT ALL for me. While friends were going on dates, getting gifts and taking trips, I was laid up in an unhappy "situationship". I basically became a friend with benefits, which was good for him and bad for me.

Motivation Song: 'Work for It" - Kayla Briana

Light at the end of the tunnel. After going through that entire "ordeal" I started moving differently when it came to my relationships. I no longer accepted "car dates", "chill dates" and meaningless convos. When I made the change, I started getting more out of who I was dealing with, and I'm not talking about just dates or gifts, I'm talking about time and attention as well. When you recognize your own worth, you show others how you want and deserve to be treated. 

Now for those of you are both happy with just keeping it strictly sexual or surface level, but for me, I want more and I know I deserve more!